Ask a Psychologist: Married with Friends

Nickel Therapy, Ask a Psychologist **“Why Nickel Therapy” is background for this article. The Case of “Married with Friends” Dear Dr. DeShong: I’ve been married over twenty years. I love my husband and ours is the most important relationship in my life. Still when I need to talk about something emotional or difficult, I find I have a better conversation with my friends. For years my husband was fine with the pattern, we both had a lot going on. But now that’s not true and he asks me why he only knows what’s going on with me when he hears …

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Why “Nickel Therapy, Ask a Psychologist?”

Why “Nickel Therapy, Ask a Psychologist?” Why have I added the Ask a Psychologist Page? When I was a skinny (not in a good way–in a ‘frizzy head’s too big for my body sort of way) and weird seventh grader, shy to the point of panic–I read a sentence in the Ann Landers column which helped me a lot.  (Though I was way too desperately trying to be cool to ever admit it.) The young man who had the courage to write to Ann Landers (a hugely brave person in my eyes) was about my age. His question was about …

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Me? Host Thanksgiving? You’ve got to be crazy! . . . Siblings

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Me?  Host Thanksgiving?  You’ve got to be crazy! Stress and Sibling Position The importance of sibling position didn’t really come up in our family until the Thanksgiving my older sister had reasons she couldn’t host the big meal. She announced this alteration to life’s grand plan at a Sunday dinner in September. My younger brother and I gawked at each other with horror. What now? Oldest sisters do the big occasions dinners, everyone knows that. He and I aren’t the oldest. We are not responsible enough for that kind of job. As the younger sister, I’d be there to entertain the folks around …

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The Sad Man: Emotions, Stress, and Making a Life

The Sad Man: Emotions and Stress A Stress-Prone Woman Enjoying a Simple Afternoon At this moment I am typing, nestled in a carol in the Las Vegas Paris Casino Race and Sports Book. All aglow like a seal pup basking in the sun. Why and how is this possible? I’m not actually betting on the races. The answer is simple. I love horses. To my eyes and heart horses are magnificent and glorious and the way they move sparks my heart. I showed horse for forty years and spent way too much money, too much time, and sacrificed my only right knee …

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