“Hey! You there! Don’t you see my halo? So move #$**!@! over!

“Hey! You there! Don’t you see my halo? So move over!” “Paying Attention to What You Are Paying Attention To” Series What you pay attention to changes the experiences the world for other people. Maybe not the president or even the mayor, but what you pay attention to matters a …

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How Do You Choose a Psychologist? A Lawyer? 

How Do You Choose a Psychologist? A Lawyer? ‘Real’ Person in an Envy-driven Consumer Culture– Series Do You Know Why . . . Doctors and Lawyers were not allowed to advertise back in the days before marketers ran the world? There was a very good reason. It was thought that …

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The Drinker, the Aardvark, and the Hat that Changed the World

The Drinker, the Aardvark, and the Hat that Changed the World “Paying Attention to What You’re Paying Attention To” Series Ms. R’s emaciated body shook so violently I wasn’t sure she would make it across the room to the ‘client’ chair, but she did. Ms. R, 56, had clearly crossed …

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Three Things the Other Person Does Better Than You

“Paying Attention to What You’re Paying Attention To” Series Three Things the Other Person Does Better ***To make sense of this post, first read: “How Orange Jell-O Changed My Life” The habit of talking about ‘the other people’ in the family when leaving a family event is a fairly common …

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Paying Attention to What You’re Paying Attention To, Part 1

What Do You Mean, You Didn’t Notice? Paying Attention to What You’re Paying Attention To, Part 1 The Green Wallpaper Incident Dr. A is a fifty-two-year old psychiatrist who began the hour saying: “I’m satisfied in most areas of my life, but for some reason, every long-term relationship I’ve been …

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Which Is More Important? Food or Love?

Which Is More Important?  Food or Love? What Humans Want Most As my husband and I headed across a parking lot to the car after breakfast at “The Egg and I” when when a young man bent under a backpack that says “Everything I own is in here” and a …

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MysteryShrink Shorts: ‘Brand’ or ‘Person?’

MysteryShrink Shorts: ‘Brand’ or ‘Person?’ The answer if very important. If you are getting up every day to work on your brand, you must direct your time, energy, in money into going from who you are to ‘who you can become’ in the eyes of others—and we’re talking as many …

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