There was a time when I was ready to jump the psychology ship. I’d decided that psychology was about fads and making up stories to fit theories. Then I studied a way of accounting for human behavior which wasn’t consumed with the battle to prove “what is really going” on in a person’s head.
At that point I became a STRATEGEST. “Let’s look at what’s going on . . . and your part in it . . . and consider ways YOU CAN MAKE your life better.”
Instead of spinning in circles trying to come up with answers to the question “WHY?” efforts are focused on making changes that work. Hard, yes. Slow, yes.
People are not that complex–as much as we like to think we are– and we know what works and doesn’t work.
We know which behaviors attract humans. 
We know which behaviors repel humans.
So why is change so hard?
Anxiety and habit.
Upcoming. What works: Learning to say what you are thinking. Having your actions based on your BEST THINKING and NOT ON EMOTIONAL PRESSURE from others or from within yourself–your own fears and anxieties.
I was nearly broad-sided (and rude) at the stop sign because I was hurrying home. Because, out of my anxiety, I hadn’t been clear (and kind) with my husband about when I’d be home from the stable. Details later.
