How Do You Choose a Psychologist? A Lawyer? 

How Do You Choose a Psychologist? A Lawyer? ‘Real’ Person in an Envy-driven Consumer Culture– Series Do You Know Why . . . Doctors and Lawyers were not allowed to advertise back in the days before marketers ran the world? There was a very good reason. It was thought that …

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What Is Emotional Closeness? How Do I Rank? Take a Ride on the Darjeeling Limited (Owen Wilson)

Distance in the Family: Take a Ride on the Darjeeling Limited (Owen Wilson) Notice of Series in Progress– Sibling Position, Anxiety, and Family Process. Frances, the eldest of the three Whitman brothers (played by Owen Wilson) makes the following announcement as they launch a trip across India on The Darjeeling …

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Me? Get in Charge of My Emotions? A Walk in the Park

Me? Get in Charge of My Emotions? A Walk in the Park The Moment I Knew Psychology Just Might Work What if you could make a shift in your habitual way of responding to your emotions, other people, and the world– and that shift would jump your potential in all …

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Which is Best? Potato Peeler or a Paring Knife?

Potato Peeler or Paring Knife? Which is Best? The lady across from me in my office described an anxious situation she experienced every time she visited her parents for Sunday dinner. Mashed potatoes were usually on the menu and my client’s responsibility. The potato tool selection is when Potato Peeler …

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Fusion and Relationship Dependency from “Psychology for Dummies” Page

            Fusion and Relationship Dependency from “Psychology for Dummies” Page A high degree of fusion or togetherness is reflected when two people have a hyper-sensitivity to each other. This intensity takes one of two forms: “I can’t do without you” or “I can’t stand to …

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The Lady Who Thought She Liked Football

The Lady Who Thought She Liked Football Relationship Dependence, “I’m Okay if You’re Okay with Me” What is Fusion? When does fusion become relationship dependency? This article is a follow up to discussion of Jodi Picoult’s book The Pact. Fusion is the process in which one person’s feelings are intertwined …

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Why Do They Have Television on Christmas?

Anytime I work with a personal story I remember my father’s caution against ever thinking my life is any more interesting than anyone else’s. I hope I haven’t slipped up. Maybe my little story will awaken a place in others where their stories hide. After the New Year I will …

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