MysteryShrink for the Short Attention Span**

Change Your Reactions, Change Your Life Quick Fix #2 Instant Buddha Quick Fix #2 for the Short Attention Span brings big results. Yet it’s so simple, anyone can do it. My dogs can do it. Sometimes. Set-up. For you to have a reaction, first you must perceive an action—You smash …

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How to Be a Loving, but Separate Person, Hawaiian Pineapple Cake

How to Be a Loving but Separate Self…Otherwise you will drift between faking agreement and hiding anger. MysteryShrink Short: Love and Boundaries FOOD, Pineapple Upside Down Cake The couple had just finished the last meal of their magical Hawaiian honeymoon. The gazed into each other’s eyes. The fragrance of blossoms …

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Over-Dosing on Back Braces

MysteryShrink Shorts Overdosing on Back Braces “Good afternoon,” I said from the podium a couple of days ago. “My name is Barbara and I’m a back-brace addict.” I didn’t start out as an all-out back brace fiend. Neither of my parents had an unhealthy attachment to medical devices—though my brother, …

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The Thirteen Brooms: Criticism and Anxiety

The Thirteen Brooms Criticism Is an Expression of Anxiety To be married is to be criticized. To be a child is to be criticized. To be a parent is to be criticized. To grow up in a world not designed to meet our needs above all others–is to be criticized. …

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Which is Best? Potato Peeler or a Paring Knife?

Potato Peeler or Paring Knife? Which is Best? The lady across from me in my office described an anxious situation she experienced every time she visited her parents for Sunday dinner. Mashed potatoes were usually on the menu and my client’s responsibility. The potato tool selection is when Potato Peeler …

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The Lady Who Thought She Liked Football

The Lady Who Thought She Liked Football Relationship Dependence, “I’m Okay if You’re Okay with Me” What is Fusion? When does fusion become relationship dependency? This article is a follow up to discussion of Jodi Picoult’s book The Pact. Fusion is the process in which one person’s feelings are intertwined …

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“I’m Okay if You’re Okay and My Family, Your Family, and Friends are Okay”

“I’m Okay if You’re Okay and My Family, Your Family, and Friends are Okay”‘ The Pact by Jodi Picoult, Part Three **This article is not a standard review but a discussion of how the story weaves in lessons in psychology and behavior. To make sense of the following, you will need to …

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