“I can’t believe this is happening. . . to me.” We’re good people, right? Or we try to be. And yet we suffer. We start out each day with a plan, an intention toward kindness, and sometimes even a list. And then reality steps up and dents our serenity. It …
Cold Turkey Quick Fix Are you ready to be less predictable and downright mysterious? Now that you have owned your responsibility for your reaction habits (The motto: This is unfortunate, inconvenient, and unpleasant, but not a disaster unless I decide to make it one.) and you have been successful in …
Change Your Reactions, Change Your Life Quick Fix #2 Instant Buddha Quick Fix #2 for the Short Attention Span brings big results. Yet it’s so simple, anyone can do it. My dogs can do it. Sometimes. Set-up. For you to have a reaction, first you must perceive an action—You smash …
Impractical Psychology On this New Year’s my mind goes back to Ellen, the thirty-three-year old mother with breast cancer who, after she’d been informed that she had from twenty-four to forty-eight of consciousness left, called me for help. Me? What did I know? I was a twenty-five-year psychologist barely out …
Complaining is Bad for Your Health: “Eat it the Way It Is!” Back in graduate school I had a course in behavior modification design. The first assignment was to set up a plan to alter a self-destructive behavior of our own. Of course, the instructor did not recognize that, just …
Miss Me? I’m Not That Crazy! The availiability of putting our words on the fabulous World Wide Web has left each of us with the impression that we are much more important than we actually are. We are even taught tricks to bubble up hit statistics and further over-estimate our …
The Opposite of Love is Using People How Far Would You Go to Be a Winner? One of the Envied People? **This entry was difficult for me to write. The story is true and disturbing. At least I was disturbed. I don’t know that readers who have grown up blasted …
