Hope: Two Women, Robin Williams, and Living NOW

MysteryShrink: Two Women and Living in the NOW The truth about psychology and psychologists:  We long to be scientific—to prove our medications, our talk therapy works.  We long to assist ourselves and other humans to find more joy and make more sense of their lives. We mostly fail on both …

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Stress, Relationships, Family: MysteryShrink Goes Social

Stress: Why You Want to Keep an Eye on MysteryShrink The truth and a giant disclaimer.  If I am to accomplish my current goal, I’m going to have to lose the sunglasses.  I’m going to have to start registering using my real name.  I’m going to have to take MysteryShrink …

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Living in the Now. Be Ready. The “Now” May Find You.

Living in the Now. Be Ready. On Being a Person,  Are We What We Contribute? (Disclaimer.  I firmly promised no ‘diary’ posts or–gasp–anything that has a scent of political issues.  I don’t for a moment think my life is so interesting the world can’t do without hearing about it. Still, …

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“Should You Care What Other People Think?” Self Esteem vs. Self Centered.

Should You Care What Other People Think?  Self Esteem vs. Self Centered. You might be surprised at the answer.  The ways concern for “what other people think” influences our lives is not simple.  Knee-jerk responses are not answers.   Sometimes ‘caring what other people think’ is about more than a …

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Life, Death, Self-esteem, and Writing Stories, Part 1

Life, Death, Self-esteem, and Writing Stories, Part 1 This article was written as a guest post on the blog of Literary Agent Helen Zimmermann who has Project Publish, a helpful blog for aspiring writers. The topic of my entry is the emotional side of writing—specifically on how your life can …

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It’s Not What Happens to You, It’s What Happens Next . . .

Dateline: Albuquerque Airport, New Mexico. October 2011.  “Land of Enchantment?  Really?” It’s Not What Happens to You, It’s What Happens Next . . . . The ‘Stolen Luggage Incident’ Encore The airline tickets were purchased at a sale price five months ago.  The Santa Fe Hilton had a double points special.  I’d timed …

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Conquering Criticism in Three Parts: Criticizing the World, Criticizing Partners and Family, and Criticizing Yourself

Conquering Criticism in Three Parts: Criticizing the World, Criticizing Partners and Family, and Criticizing Yourself– Bet you thought this was going to be about those mean other people who criticize you and how you can get them to stop. Wrong. Anyway, convincing someone else to not criticize with like emptying …

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