Three Things the Other Person Does Better Than You

“Paying Attention to What You’re Paying Attention To” Series Three Things the Other Person Does Better ***To make sense of this post, first read: “How Orange Jell-O Changed My Life” The habit of talking about ‘the other people’ in the family when leaving a family event is a fairly common …

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A Thanksgiving MysteryShrink Short

A Thanksgiving MysteryShrink Short A Quiet Man Shows the Rest of Us What Thanksgiving Really Means Sure, there was turkey and everything else that’s supposed to represent abundance and gratitude in the family. But it was John Bunch, a cousin of my late father-in-law, that who reminded us what it …

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When it Comes to Distant Mothers—This Lady Wins

When it Comes to Distant Mothers—This Lady Wins The movie, The Darjeeling Limited, is the story of one man’s attempt to save his own life and maybe those of his brothers who are equally crippled by their strange and emotionally distant childhood. **To make sense of the current story, first …

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Emotional Distance, Owen Wilson, and The Darjeeling Limited

Emotional Distance, Owen Wilson, and The Darjeeling Limited Part 1. Brothers on a Train What would you do if a psychologist suggested that to truly resolve current self-destructive habits, you must get straight—comfortable and ‘real’– with your family? Would you: Demand your money back and accuse the therapist of conspiracy …

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Olympics Free-for-All Medley Swim

Olympics Free-for-All Medley Swim Sport for Us, the Real People Hear ye! Hear ye! The International Olympic Committee has arranged an event for us, the real people. Well, we can’t do ‘flying body’ sports but we can succeed in our event, the Free-for-All Medley Swim. We chose a swimming race …

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What Is Emotional Closeness? How Do I Rank? Take a Ride on the Darjeeling Limited (Owen Wilson)

Distance in the Family: Take a Ride on the Darjeeling Limited (Owen Wilson) Notice of Series in Progress– Sibling Position, Anxiety, and Family Process. Frances, the eldest of the three Whitman brothers (played by Owen Wilson) makes the following announcement as they launch a trip across India on The Darjeeling …

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MysteryShrink Shorts: 400 Naked Men, Now That’s a Campaign!

MysteryShrink Shorts:  400 Naked Men, Now That’s a Campaign! Dateline: Mexico City. A few months ago, I took a right out onto the sidewalk of Juarez Street (heaviest traffic area) feeling kind of uninspired which is unusual after four cups of great coffee at the Casa de las Azuelas.** In …

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