“Hey! You there! Don’t you see my halo? So move #$**!@! over!

“Hey! You there! Don’t you see my halo? So move over!” “Paying Attention to What You Are Paying Attention To” Series What you pay attention to changes the experiences the world for other people. Maybe not the president or even the mayor, but what you pay attention to matters a …

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How Do You Choose a Psychologist? A Lawyer? 

How Do You Choose a Psychologist? A Lawyer? ‘Real’ Person in an Envy-driven Consumer Culture– Series Do You Know Why . . . Doctors and Lawyers were not allowed to advertise back in the days before marketers ran the world? There was a very good reason. It was thought that …

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The Drinker, the Aardvark, and the Hat that Changed the World

The Drinker, the Aardvark, and the Hat that Changed the World “Paying Attention to What You’re Paying Attention To” Series Ms. R’s emaciated body shook so violently I wasn’t sure she would make it across the room to the ‘client’ chair, but she did. Ms. R, 56, had clearly crossed …

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Three Things the Other Person Does Better Than You

“Paying Attention to What You’re Paying Attention To” Series Three Things the Other Person Does Better ***To make sense of this post, first read: “How Orange Jell-O Changed My Life” The habit of talking about ‘the other people’ in the family when leaving a family event is a fairly common …

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Paying Attention: How Orange Jello Changed My Life

Paying Attention to What You’re Paying Attention To: The Orange Jello Incident My in-laws lived in Tulsa, Oklahoma, which is about a nine-hour drive from Austin. Why do I mention the length of the trip? Because, nine hours is a long time for a husband to listen to his wife …

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One Woman’s Annoyance is Another Woman’s Free Vacation: Paying Attention . . .

Paying Attention to What You’re Paying Attention To Perception Perception is a critical element in “Paying Attention to What You’re Paying Attention To.” Turns out not only do we distort what we see, we see things that aren’t there and do not see things that are. For now,, just know …

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Paying Attention to What You’re Paying Attention To, Part 1

What Do You Mean, You Didn’t Notice? Paying Attention to What You’re Paying Attention To, Part 1 The Green Wallpaper Incident Dr. A is a fifty-two-year old psychiatrist who began the hour saying: “I’m satisfied in most areas of my life, but for some reason, every long-term relationship I’ve been …

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