Ask a Psychologist: Married with Friends

Nickel Therapy, Ask a Psychologist **“Why Nickel Therapy” is background for this article. The Case of “Married with Friends” Dear Dr. DeShong: I’ve been married over twenty years. I love my husband and ours is the most important relationship in my life. Still when I need to talk about something …

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Why “Nickel Therapy, Ask a Psychologist?”

Why “Nickel Therapy, Ask a Psychologist?” Why have I added the Ask a Psychologist Page? When I was a skinny (not in a good way–in a ‘frizzy head’s too big for my body sort of way) and weird seventh grader, shy to the point of panic–I read a sentence in …

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Me? Host Thanksgiving? You’ve got to be crazy! . . . Siblings

Me?  Host Thanksgiving?  You’ve got to be crazy! Stress and Sibling Position The importance of sibling position didn’t really come up in our family until the Thanksgiving my older sister had reasons she couldn’t host the big meal. She announced this alteration to life’s grand plan at a Sunday dinner in …

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Emotions: Living in the Now or ‘How to Visualize Whirled Peas’

Emotions: Living in the Now or ‘How to Visualize Whirled Peas’ Emotions:  The Old Man, His Mop, and His Gift How do you ‘live in the now’ when life takes a dive suddenly and forever?  And you’re a kid? The Ruiz Gallindo Hotel is nestled in Fortín de la Flores, …

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“Should You Care What Other People Think?” Self Esteem vs. Self Centered.

Should You Care What Other People Think?  Self Esteem vs. Self Centered. You might be surprised at the answer.  The ways concern for “what other people think” influences our lives is not simple.  Knee-jerk responses are not answers.   Sometimes ‘caring what other people think’ is about more than a …

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It’s Not What Happens to You, It’s What Happens Next . . .

Dateline: Albuquerque Airport, New Mexico. October 2011.  “Land of Enchantment?  Really?” It’s Not What Happens to You, It’s What Happens Next . . . . The ‘Stolen Luggage Incident’ Encore The airline tickets were purchased at a sale price five months ago.  The Santa Fe Hilton had a double points special.  I’d timed …

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“What’s Wrong with You?” Criticism, Part Two.

“What’s Wrong with You?” Criticism, Part Two. Dateline: In the air over New Mexico, American Airlines Flight 78. It’s crowded up here in the clouds because New Mexicans levitate with the ease that you and I eat breakfast. I almost talked myself out of writing this element of “Conquering Criticism …

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