Paying Attention to What You’re Paying Attention To, Part 1

What Do You Mean, You Didn’t Notice? Paying Attention to What You’re Paying Attention To, Part 1 The Green Wallpaper Incident Dr. A is a fifty-two-year old psychiatrist who began the hour saying: “I’m satisfied in most areas of my life, but for some reason, every long-term relationship I’ve been …

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MysteryShrink Shorts: Do I Have to Agree with You to Be Your Friend?

MysteryShrink Shorts: Do I Have to Agree with You to Be Your Friend? Politics doesn’t usually come up so much in doing clinical psychology work—usually. This spring and summer has been different. More than ever I’ve heard family members choosing to use distance as a way to manage the anxiety …

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Are You Having An Affair or a Friendship?

MysteryShrink Shorts:  Are You Having An Affair or a Friendship? Picture yourself in a restaurant with your ‘friend.’ You look up and see your spouse or significant other walk in the front door. What happens inside you? If your urge is to jump up, to smile, and cross the room …

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Sex and the Dishwasher: Becoming a Self in Relationship

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Sex and the Dishwasher: Becoming a Self in Relationships Mr. and Mrs. R were in my office with complaints about the other’s behavior which makes sense because each of us views the world through our personal and very prejudiced camera. Mrs. R’s goal was for her husband to recognize the …

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I’m Okay if You Are Okay with Me.

I’m Okay if You Are Okay with Me. **This article is not a standard review but a discussion of how the story weaves in lessons in psychology and behavior. What’s the difference between being in love and being locked in relationship dependence? In her novel, The Pact, Picoult does an …

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Medication, MysteryShrink in Real Life

MysteryShrink in Real Life Every year I do at least one tribute to people who are willing to take medication to deal with all sorts of disorders, particularly depression. No one wants to take medication. Certainly no one wants the side effects. Those who are willing are heroes and heroines …

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Ask a Psychologist: Married with Friends

Nickel Therapy, Ask a Psychologist **“Why Nickel Therapy” is background for this article. The Case of “Married with Friends” Dear Dr. DeShong: I’ve been married over twenty years. I love my husband and ours is the most important relationship in my life. Still when I need to talk about something …

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