Paying Attention to What You’re Paying Attention To, Part 1

What Do You Mean, You Didn’t Notice? Paying Attention to What You’re Paying Attention To, Part 1 The Green Wallpaper Incident Dr. A is a fifty-two-year old psychiatrist who began the hour saying: “I’m satisfied in most areas of my life, but for some reason, every long-term relationship I’ve been …

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The Thirteen Brooms: Criticism and Anxiety

The Thirteen Brooms Criticism Is an Expression of Anxiety To be married is to be criticized. To be a child is to be criticized. To be a parent is to be criticized. To grow up in a world not designed to meet our needs above all others–is to be criticized. …

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Sex and the Dishwasher: Becoming a Self in Relationship

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Sex and the Dishwasher: Becoming a Self in Relationships Mr. and Mrs. R were in my office with complaints about the other’s behavior which makes sense because each of us views the world through our personal and very prejudiced camera. Mrs. R’s goal was for her husband to recognize the …

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Ask a Psychologist: Married with Friends

Nickel Therapy, Ask a Psychologist **“Why Nickel Therapy” is background for this article. The Case of “Married with Friends” Dear Dr. DeShong: I’ve been married over twenty years. I love my husband and ours is the most important relationship in my life. Still when I need to talk about something …

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