I’ve been working on a workbook on practical things a person can do to improve her relationship.  Practical strategies that don’t require years of therapy or trial by error which makes for a way to painful life.

Divorces are painful.  So are arguments and nights wasted   when you could be enjoying a loving, fun, GREAT RELATIONSHIP.

I was going to go for a workbook to be used over a weekend.  Then a week.  Now, I’m thinking a month.  These are changes you can make that WILL change your significant other’s behavior toward you, but remember.  His behavior–whether or not he changes–is not your problem.

And since the other person’s behavior is NOT YOUR PROBLEM.  His change will be just a bonus.  How YOU CHANGE YOU and how much better you’re going to FEEL ABOUT YOU, is what we’re going for.

WEEK ONE:  Managing my anxiety.  Learning to tolerate anxiety.  Learning to breathe deeply and practice restraint. 

Mantras (Not the woo-woo kind.): 

“I do not have to say everything that crosses my mind.”

  “Cool air in, warm air out.”